A day worth blogging about…

A day worth blogging about…

I stole that title from my dad as he titled his e-mail to me that exact way, awkward.

Yesterday I had my final surgery. Yesterday was my last day of hell in this saga of burning fire. I had my final surgery to exchange my expanders out of my chest. The expanders were placed after the breast surgeon took out all the breast tissue in order to stretch the skin out for implants. The expanders were pumped with saline each week until goal size was reached. I also had two large, which were now considered one, cysts in my uterus that were attached to my right ovary, more like engulfing my right. We found these cysts when I did my PET scan to see if the cancer had spread. I never knew about them and they were pretty shocked about that. The gynecology oncologist could actually feel them inside of me upon physical exam. Did I mention he’s not bad to look at? However the first time I saw him I was having a terrible week crying everyday & oh bald, and the second time I forgot to shave my legs and look like a boy. Ugh. Oh, hi Kim.

Anyway, my surgery was on March 7, 2018. Of course there was a snow storm, OF COURSE there was. No better way to cool off hell than with a blizzard. I was not nervous at all for this surgery until 2 days prior. This surgery, while it was fairly invasive, was not bad compared to my first surgery. I hate to say it like this, but in my first surgery, the surgeon literally scraped the breast tissue out of my skin and muscle, removed 22 lymph nodes and cut my muscle up, that’s intense. I had two foreign objects place in my body and then had them pumped up. Oh, let’s not forget about the drains on each side.

I only started to become nervous on Sunday. Not terribly but, nervous. I was more nervous for this snow storm. What are the mother f*ckin’ chances. They don’t call you until 1 pm on the day before surgery, yes, weird. So I was VERY PATIENTLY waiting for the call. They called, 12 pm arrival, nothing regarding weather. I was e-mailing Ed back and forth, “should we go???? Should we borrow a truck??? Omg I’m nervous”. Response…. “stop checking the weather and get back to work!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!”. Absolutely zero exaggeration on exclamation points, actually there may have been double. This was after many e-mails back and forth including one “you are in charge Kate”, always Ed, always.

Surgery was on. Kim and I got the hibiclens I needed to shower with the night before and morning of surgery. It is anti bacterial and decreases risk of infection.

I took 0.5 mg of an Ativan, I’m off them now, remember when I took it every night?? Good ole’ days… I’m legitimately joking. I was nervous and I needed to sleep. Dad was coming at 9:30 am, didn’t want to take any chances. Woke up, showered, dressed. Kim was still sleeping so woke him up with some hugs then continued to hug until dad came. There were tears but not many. The roads were clear. Only wet and no one on the road, oh yeah maybe because the state of emergency. We got in in record time, left at 9:25 am, arrives at 10:21 am. Wow. Parked, walked up. What a beautiful place the Josie Robertson Center. However I hope you never have to go there.

We sat down and were called in 20 minutes later. Ed brought his slippers, LOL. I bring my robe on every vacation and would bring it pretty much everywhere if it was not looked down upon. Anyway, we were brought up to the room. I was having deja vu, just weird. Walked past the hallway where my previous room was, not great feelings radiating towards me, but shot them down. In the room, changed into medical garb. It was 11 am, surgery was not until 1:27 pm (and the last number I saw on the clock before being drugged was 1:27 pm). Pregnancy test, still not pregnant, although seeing all the babies in our family makes my ovaries hurt, but maybe that was just the cysts??? I was poked twice, they couldn’t find a vein. Anesthesiologist came in, great guy. Gynecology oncologist came in, another great guy, plastics PA came in, not the actual surgeon because frankly, poor social skills, however his work is LIT (translation: best mastectomy boobs I’ve ever seen).

Around 1:15 pm it was time to go up. This is the second time I’ve walked up to my own surgery. I hate it. The first time was when I was getting the lymph node taken out to to be tested for cancer. I was hysterical. This time, not so bad however seeing all the people, instruments, everything… no good for Kay. I laid down and had a warm blanket put on, love that. The anesthesiologist was searching for a vein, they had to use a baby IV, the smallest one they make, because my veins were dead from being dehydrated. At this point I was looking around and started to cry. I’m 29, I’ve been through so much, why am I here? Thoughts I honestly don’t have too often but today, I did. The answer: it’s my path. I was borderline heavy cry but I didn’t let myself get there. The nurse started asking me questions, as they usually do. She eventually gave me a dose of something, then another, then I was out, waking up in recovery.

I don’t remember what happened when I woke up. I’m having flashbacks as if I was drunk and am remembering things. I think I asked, “where’s my dad?” and “did they find cancer?”. Right here and no were the answers.

Unfortunately, I did lose my right ovary. He said it would be a possibility because he maybe not be able to determine what is cyst vs. ovary. I’m a little sad about it but he said all you need is one ovary to make a baby. The cyst and ovary will still be sent out to pathology. I called my mom, have no idea what was said, lol. Probably “mommy I’m done! No cancer! I’m hungry”, I need to ask her. Then I texted Kim. LOL WAIT THIS IS FUNNY.

  • “Our baby”
  • “Love you”
  • “No cancer”
  • “One ovary our”
  • “Hooedully can have baby”

Drunk texts by Kay.

Honestly the rest is blurry. I think I was examined. I had to pee. Nurse helped me then I got dressed on my own. FaceTimed Hillary for 2.5 seconds and barely remember it. Nurse walked me downstairs and we were out of there.

We left at 8:30 pm. Ugh, you won’t even believe the rest. I was feeling pretty good. Again, nothing like last surgery. The most pain part was my pelvis and actually my port removal. I’m assuming the port because it has been in my for so long it must have attached somehow. Riding along, no major issues, then BOOM. Stand still on route 80. We used Waze and it brought us to a major highway that was BLOCKED OFF BY TO TRUCKS THAT HAD FALLEN OVER. We were on route 80 W from 9 pm to 12:15 am. No joke. I had to pee so badly from all the IV fluids I got, eventually I had to open the front and back door of the car and just pee. My bladder was pushing into my uterus and it was too painful. The traffic started to move and I was not done. Anesthesia actually makes it pretty difficult for you to pee so you have to push it out, kinda hard after that type of surgery. So I wrapped it up, moved the car up, and did it again, LOL.

At around 12:15 am, dad and a few others got out of their cars to see what’s up. I took pain meds again around 11:30 pm, my last dose of the heavy stuff. We were right in front of one of those police turn arounds in the median and said f*ck it. Turned around, got off at route 46, roads weren’t great but doable. Got back on route 80 wayyyy down the line and made it home at 1:30 am. HOLY CRAP. Thankful it wasn’t my first surgery. Thankful I like my dad. Thankful I had somewhere warm to go home to.

I wake up this morning with a drain on each side. Which was placed because the plastic surgeon removed some scar tissue plus it is still a pretty big surgery so fluid will rush to the site. When I heard I would have drains again, I was upset. Now, meh. I can do this.

I wake up this morning hungry, a little nauseous, thankful for my friends, family and Kim.

Also thankful for modern medicine.

To date, I have 10 scars, 7 tattoos, two foreign objects in my body and a new perspective on life.

I instagram storied my entire day, here are some highlights.

The next time we talk, I won’t be a chemo patient anymore.

The next time we talk, I won’t be a chemo patient anymore.

April 22, 2017. Saturday. April showers (baby, bridal, baby) everywhere! I am 28 so it is that “time” (ya know, normal people getting engaged, having babies, not getting cancer — cue the violins). I don’t have many friends so, there aren’t too many (hehe). I was up early(ish) to get ready to head down to New Egypt for Britt’s (my college roommate’s) bridal shower. I went to TJmaxx the other day to grab a few things to try on for the showers. Picked a cute Cynthia Rowley dress for $15, love me some TJmaxx. Shower, make up, dress, wig. I stopped at Walgreens to pick me up some new eyelashes, I have become a daily eyelash gluer on-er and I kind of love it. I got the eyelashes and glued them on in the car, hehe. A few tips, put the glue on and let sit for a minute, it’s easier to put on when the glue isn’t so wet. Also, use your fingers to put them on rather then tweezers, you have more control. Anyway, went down to New Egypt to a winery for the bridal shower. So cute and pretty. I got to see all my old college friends who I haven’t seen in years (shout out to my Monmouth ladies!).

 The lunch was yummziessss, salad, green beans, potatoes and salmon, yum. I had to leave early because Kim’s sister was having her baby shower. I had ANOTHER baby shower that day but couldn’t make it, come on guyssss. Anyway, left around 2:30 pm to head to Kim’s mom’s house for the baby shower. 

Got there around 3:45 pm, just in time for dessert, DENY, DENY, DENY. Remember, I am in a weight loss challenge with my girlfriends for the Cancerlorette party. Hung out at the baby shower for a few hours then went home to change into some comfy clothes, out of those heels and ready for a chill girls night at Kara’s. Hillary was home for the baby shower. Hillary, Angie and I went to Kara’s for a fabulous cheese plate, champagne and some homemade pizza. Truly, all I ever need in life. We were in the middle of a story and Kim called, I knew he was on his way home from work so I silenced it. Of course, always try to give the girls night all your attention! Five minutes later someone pulls up to the house. I didn’t see the car. We weren’t sure who it was. It was Kimmyyyyy. He wanted to see Hillary and he hasn’t seen Kara’s home renovation yet so that was good. Love seeing his face. Kim left, we chatted a while longer then it was time to go home.

April 23, 2017. Sunday. I think I laid around most of the morning. I was meeting the girls for brunch around 11 am. We were heading to a new place but it ended up being closed so we went to Cheesecake Factory which I wasn’t mad about at all. We sat outside, had some iced coffee and just chilled, it was great. Had two eggs over easy, english muffin with tomato, truly delicious (and healthy). I headed over to Mar’s for a few hours and hung out. I left for home around 5:30 pm and wanted to get a work out in, it was beautiful out. I got home, changed and Kim walked in the door. We didn’t have any plans for dinner that night so we decided to order in. He wanted something from the italian restaurant we love and I wanted something from Pure Pita. We each ordered separately on Seamless, lolz. I went out for a run while Kim went to shower. Did a (slow) mile and felt good. I then decided to walk to pick up my food because it was so close to where I ended my run. It wasn’t ready yet so I walked around the block to gain a few more steps. Got my food and walked home. Kim’s food wasn’t ready yet and I said I would wait……… of course I couldn’t wait, come on. I got grilled chicken with pineapple, tomatoes, onions. It came in a pita but I took it out because, CHALLENGE GUYS. I did get some falafels on the side with spicy yogurt sauce, yumz. Shower, relax, Sunday things.

April 24, 2017. Monday. WEIGH IN TIME. Week 1-162.4. Week 2-160.4, yeahhhh boiiiiiiii. Down 2 pounds. I mean, it’s not real weight. Not until you’ve lost 5 or more pounds is it really fat loss. I can pee and lose 2 pounds. Hey, I will take it though. I was starting in a new building today. I actually started at this building when we first picked it up and I was there during the time period of my diagnosis. Weird that I am back at the end of my treatment. This building reminds me of my first job, smaller building, feels more like a family compared to other, bigger, 9 story buildings I have been in. Feels good. Got to work around 8:30 am and got to organizing.

Worked until 1 pm and then had to race down, no, I drove cautiously, to MSK for my first visit of the week. I went for the genetic counseling. The genetic counselor was really nice, maybe too nice? I am not sure. She called me in and she started right in on my family tree. She was talking and talking, eventually she said to me, “are you ok?”, at that point, yes? I am fine? I think she took my minimal questions and non-dramatic facial expressions as a sign, but no ma’am, I am fine, I am just UBER tired of talking about cancer. Eventually I shed one or two tears, nothing dramatic, just like, wow this is my life, sometimes I forget how unbelievable it is. She did say if I test positive for a gene that puts me at high risk for ovarian cancer, they would not recommend I take out my ovaries until I am 35. That made me feel good. But you know what my first question was? “Would they take them out sooner if I asked them to?”. Is that a sign that I don’t want kids? Maybe? You know what it really is, fear. Fear will run a lot of my thoughts for the rest of my life. Any bump, any “abnormality”, anything, my first thought will be, “I wonder if it’s cancer”. My life will never be the same and that’s a fact.

Then I signed off, take my blood and test it.

It was first night of restaurant week. Kim’s mom, Meg and I went to a place called Chef Fredy’s Table. Mom and I went there probably 3 years ago for restaurant week for lunch where we sat outside. It has changed since then. I got a stuffed mushroom with spinach and smoked mozzarella then filet mignon, mashed potatoes and vegetables and a chocolate mousse for dinner. I brought half the steak home and finished half the dessert, because, self control y’all, it’s harddddd. 

Got home and Kim was hanging on the couch. It was up to bed for me, sleepy. Chemo tomorrow.

April 25, 2017. Tuesday. Second to last chemo day. Up and out by 7:40 am. Melanie was bringing me to chemo today. We were off. Mel dropped me off for blood work and then went to get the usual cinnamon raisin bagel, weight loss challenge or no challenge, I am eating my cinnamon raisin bagel before chemo. Side note: since I went to MSK yesterday after work, I had my lashes on, wig on, everything. I was kind of done up because I was seeing people for the first time on Monday since I started chemo so I wanted to look real fly. This young man took my blood, extremely nice, made me feel good, as many do at MSK. GUESS WHO TOOK MY BLOOD THIS MORNING WHILE I HAD NO MAKE UP ON, NO LASHES, NO WIG. Omg this poor soul. I literally started laughing and said “omg, you took my blood yesterday and it’s so funny because you probably don’t even recognize me” he said “oh yea!”, literally he probably didn’t recognize me. LOL tho.

On the way to chemo, for some reason I checked my MSK app. There was a message from the doctor’s office that they wanted to move my pelvic ultrasound up to TODAY at 2 pm rather than next week since the meeting with the gyno oncologist was Friday. Well, ya should have called me but, ok. I would rather get it done today then have to go back after my last chemo treatment. Melanie came up and we ate. We were called into chemo pretty quick. We were in and out by 10:15 am, the earliest I have ever been done. Crazy. Melanie dropped me off. I finished the other half of my bagel and laid down for about an hour before having to head back for the ultrasound. The benadryl had worn off by then although I was still sleepy. Went back for my 2 pm appointment. They wanted a pelvic ultrasound (inside and outside, yeah, as horrendous as you may think). They want to see what has been going on with that pelvic mass of mine in which they thought was a dermoid cyst and just didn’t think it was important to asses back then, well, now it’s time. It’s time for everything. 

I was out of there by 3 pm. Visit number 3 in two days, done. Starting to get really sick of this place on a mental level. Melanie and I were going to go to Roots for the lunch special for restaurant week but I was just too sleepy. I ended up making that left over filet mignon for the lunch with some eggs, it was quiteeeee delightful. I just hung out most of the day. For dinner, some Trader Joe’s rice, chicken and veggies. We decided to watch Split. Anyone watch it? I have been wanting to for a while. I thought it was pretty good. It was a little deeper than I thought it would be. Kim got kind of bored half way through so decided to make a cake. A cake. A two layer, coconut, homemade icing and all, cake. Oye vey. I went up to get in bed around 8:30 pm and about an hour later, a piece of cake was delivered to my bed. It was gooooooooood. I mean, it had to be, it was made with about 5 sticks of butterrrrrrrr. IT WAS ALSO 775 CALORIES AND BECAUSE I LOVE HIM SO MUCH AND DID NOT WANT TO HURT HIS FEELINGS I ATE IT AND I LOGGED IT ON MY FITNESS PAL AND IT REALLY HURT. End.

April 27, 2017. Wednesday. Off to work, a day off from MSK I am thankful for. Work was good, worked until about 4:30 pm. It was Kim’s turn to go out with me for restaurant week. We were going to a local Italian restaurant, Nunzio’s. They had a prix fixed dinner for $35. I got home around 5:30 pm, we had reservations with Kim’s coworker and girlfriend at 7:30 pm. I sit down on the couch and “Dr. Gorsky’s Office” is calling. Hmmm, weird. The nurse was calling to give me a heads up that the gyno oncologists office was going to call me to set up an MRI to get a closer look at the cyst. “oh, ok, is everything ok, do they think it is something??”, I said… and in my head… WHAT THE FUCK, WHY, WHAT, I AM CONFUSED, HOLD ON, THIS IS SUPPOSED TO BE NOTHING, I CAN’T HANDLE ANYMORE. “I am not sure, they just want a better look. How are you doing?” … “Well I was good until I got this call” … “oh, I am sorry, I don’t mean to be an alarmist, I just wanted to tell you”. She is right, I am thankful she called, she just got the brunt of my fear. Oh, hi, again, that thing called fear. Do you know how tiring fear is? Might be the most tiring thing I have ever experienced. Kim was in the shower, I immediately called dad. “THEY WANT AN MRI, WHY DO THEY WANT AN MRI, I DON’T UNDERSTAND”, as tears are falling ever so quickly down my face. Poor dad. Dad and Kim always get these frantic, tearful calls. That is probably, no it is definitely why,  they both have anxiety about getting phone calls from me. “Kate, calm down, what did they say”. We reviewed it. “So it sounds like they just want to get a better look at it”. True. An MRI is not a cancer diagnosis. You know why I freaked the fuck out? Because the last time someone wanted to look closer into something was when I got a mammogram, “the doctor wants to look a little closer” … “the doctor wants one more, she wants to look at it closer” … so you could understand my … fear. Kim comes out of shower, more tears and maybe a, “if it is something, I am done, I’m not doing anything” … “yes you are” he said. Did I mean that? In that split second, yes, I did. I am truly, truly over all of this. Mostly because I have been to MSK three times already this week and now they want to schedule a fourth time before now what will be the fifth.

I would do this all again, for Kim. 

Kim asked if we should cancel dinner. No, I said. I am learning to get over things, move past them, function like a normal human being when there is bad news because, my life. We walked to dinner. It was delightful and delicious. I got a caesar salad to start, then grilled pork chops, mashed potatoes and carrots, yummmm. Then a chocolate mousse cake with decaf coffee, ate half. It was gooooood.

 It was a great night, just what I needed. I had a missed called from someone from Morristown. I was going to get up and leave the table and take the call but thought, nope, let it go, enjoy right now, let it go. You HAVE to do that. It was someone from End of Elm calling to confirm our reservation for tomorrow, lol. Home, snuggle, bed.

April 28, Thursday. Up and off to work. They still didn’t call about scheduling the MRI by 12 pm and the appointment with the oncologist was 10:15 am tomorrow. I wasn’t gonna call, no way. At 1 pm they called. “Hi, this is Kevin from Dr. Leitao’s office, can you be in at 2 pm for the MRI” … with a little attitude “no sir, I can’t, I am at work and I am an hour away” … “ok, if you leave now you can make it” … “no, sir, I am at work, I cannot just leave, I am sorry”. Listen, I understand I have cancer and if this was for a chemo treatment or a shot that would cure me, sure, I will rush down there, but you need to respect my time too. I said I could do 3 or 4 pm, he said he will check with the team. Yes, sir, please do. I got a call at 2 pm, “Does 4 pm work?” … yes, yes sir it does. Left work at 3 pm, made it down there by 3:55 pm. I don’t think I really remembered what an MRI was when she told me I needed one. I think I thought it was more like the PET scan, not as intense. No, no, it wasn’t. Clothes off (undies on), robe on, brought into a room, IV started, contrast dye, glucagon shot. Jesus. Let me slow down.

Someone brought me into a room. It will take one hour, she said. WTF. In my head. Do I have to drink that stuff, I asked, no. Ok. She left and said the nurse will be in soon to start the IV. Tears, tears, tears. Why was I crying? Hmmm I think because I was scared of wtf this test was really looking for because no one really told me, it was my fourth time here this week, and I am truly, truly tired of doing all this shit. That’s what I said when the nurse asked why I was crying and if I was scared of the IV or the test. No ma’am, I have a fucking device in my body that you guys pierce once a week to get chemotherapy, I am not scared of an IV or a test. I’m sorry but I just, people frustrate me (and I am sure I frustrate them as well). Someone came and got me for the test. I was told to lay down, I was given a blanket. The nurse came in and gave me a glucagon shot in my stomach. Glucagon is usually given when someone has very low blood sugar, so the sugar in my blood raced to my stomach to help it relax so the picture would come out clear. Tears continued to roll down the side of my face as I was squished into the tube. After about a half hour I was given some contrast dye to help define the masses. Then, I HAD TO HOLD MY BREATH 5 TIMES FOR 30 SECONDS. No, no, how do really old people do this shit??

It was over. I got up, whoozy because all the sugar in my blood is now in my stomach. They give you juice and fig newtons right after, yum fig newtons, ew juice. I got dressed and went home. Sigh. One more visit. I was getting dinner with Ed and Nate on the other side of town. I decided to walk because it was gorgeous and I needed it. I sat down, like a grumpy cat. I need to work on that, Nate even said “can we not talk about issues for one night” after I explained about 7 of mine. No sir, we can’t not, because my life. After I had a good cheese plate, I was better. Kim was playing golf with his buddies, he met us after for a few bites of dessert and to drive me home. I was very, very ready for beddy.

April 29, 2017. Friday. I was off today because the appointment was at 10:15 am. Woke up, kind of feeling like a zombie. Didn’t want to go, didn’t know what they were going to say, didn’t really give a shit at this point. Dad was meeting me there because yesterday was not pretty and he needed to absorb things because I was like a sponge so full of water. I woke up, didn’t eat anything, wig on, lashes on, on my way. Dad was sitting outside in a nice wooden rocking chair living the dream reading, lol. It was gorgeous out, so warm, I wore a sweater, whoopsies. We were in by 10:20 am. The doctor wanted to do an exam so Ed went back into the waiting room. The nurse came in to take vitals and then the NP came in to talk more about my history. More tears. Just tired, I said when she asked why. The doctor then came in and did an exam then we left the exam room and went into the doctor’s office. Dad came in. There was a picture of what looked like a body and a bunch of blobs, welp, it was me, ha. Probably shouldn’t have that up with the door wide open and the patient just in the room. Oh well. He came in about ten minutes later and then said, hold on one second, be right back, and came back about ten minutes later. Dad rolled his eyes.

He came in. Basically, they think I have one very large cyst, 6 inches long, touching both ovaries, or two large cysts, 3 inches long, coming from each ovary. Due to the fact that it is so big, he could feel it on the exam, he wants to take it out. Sigh. I think I figured they would want to? “So, is it cancer?” … well, we don’t know for sure yet. HA HA HA, SIR, NO STOP, I CAN’T. Rolled my eyes. “The final MRI reading isn’t done yet. We think it is just a dermoid cyst, so just random things like hair follicles, could be teeth” … so my unborn twin sir? They said they can do a minimally invasive procedure however if need be, they would need to make a larger cut, like a C-section. Great. Also, “we will try to keep both of your ovaries intact however we can’t promise they will be there when you get out of surgery”. Great. “Do you want kids?” … “I am not sure, but I want to know my options”. We didn’t go into great detail about that, it will have to be later. He doesn’t recommend doing it before my breast surgery as we do not want to put that off. He could do it during however it may be long and if there are complications then it would not be good. I think the best option would be to get it done after breast surgery, before reconstruction and a little bit after so I am recovered well. Dad basically re-explained everything he said, with the doctor saying yes, yes, yes, so I wouldn’t leave there and have a mental breakdown. I was all out of mental breakdowns. I was confident it was going to be nothing. I actually said, “I mean honestly, at this point, for this to be cancer, it would be pretty freakin’ crazy right doc?” … he said yes. Dermoid cysts turn out to be cancer in 2% of people with them.

The office called at 5 pm. Not cancer. Phew.

We left. I went home to lay down. I was meeting someone I work with for a drink and a late lunch or early dinner, whatever you want to call it. I was pretty tired. Laid on the couch. Kim texted me asking how it went and asking how I was. I didn’t want to talk much about it yesterday and I had minimal to talk about today because I am just so over it. “Went fine, I am over it, I am tired of talking about myself and my issues” … “You are the center of the universe and we all care about you”.

No I don’t think he was kidding and no I don’t know how to explain to all of you what Kim is to me. I am a MUCH better person for having met him and for having him in my life. I am happiest when I am with him. People often say to me, “how is Kim, he seems to be handling this really well and is very good to you” … “I can’t even explain to you in words how amazing he is” .. that’s my usual response. Because I literally cannot find the words to really emulate my feelings about him. I will think of it eventually and let you know. For now, just believe that when someone says, I am the luckiest girl in the world, that might ACTUALLY be me, and I have cancer. 

Just becuase my hair and lashes were looking REAL RIGHT, cancer ain’t got nothing on me. 

This too shall pass. This too shall pass. This too shall pass.

This too shall pass. This too shall pass. This too shall pass.

Monday, January 16, 2017. Monday. Same old, same old. Got up, did I shower? Nope. Showered yesterday, whoops. Make up, wig, dressed, out the door by 8:15 am? Got to work by 9:15 am. I had a pretty good day work wise however the anxiety was really setting in for mediport surgery tomorrow. The woman on the phone, I think I said this already, said I will be in a twilight, won’t be knocked out but won’t feel anything. But what does that mean exactly? I will be awake while they are putting something in my body? Ok, BRB gotta go cry a little in the bathroom then get myself together. Left work around 3:45 pm. Got home and the tears start a flown’. Kim and I laid in bed and I just let loose. “I can’t believe this is my life, I can’t believe this is my life, this is a joke”….”I am fucking bald, at first yeah it was cool but now, I don’t want to be bald anymore”. Kim, “at least yours is going to grow back! I am stuck like this for another 50 years!”, LOL TRUE. He always knows the right thing to say, or to just let me cry and listen.

I was feeling anxious on Sunday too. We were waiting in a line to get out of the parking garage and he was complaining and before we left I had to drag him out of the house. THEN when I was driving there was someone who was being annoying and Kim wanted me to honk so he kept reaching over and finally I just broke, “STOP IT, YOU’RE COMPLAINING SO MUCH AND YOU’RE ANNOYING ME”. The guilt immediately ran through my body. Kim gets quiet when there’s confrontation, it’s one of our downfalls as a couple, we ain’t all cute and perfect and he ain’t perfect himself even though around now he pretty much is, except for Sunday, he was really annoying the shit out of me. I apologized 10 minutes later, “I am sorry for yelling at you, I am anxious”. I am anxious for so many reasons. I AM WEARING A WIG. That’s anxiety provoking I’d say. Can’t explain it. Just, like, who reallllllllly wants to wear a wig other than Kim Zolciak Biermann, LOL. Just everything.

Anyway, dad and I were catching the train from Morristown into NYC that night, back to Monday night y’all. My dad has a friend (Hi Susan!) who has an apartment on the upper east side fairly close to where we had to be in the morning, convenience is key to life, when possible. It was beautiful. We arrived at the apartment around 8 pm. Olivia, Susan’s daughter, and her bf were making dinner; avocado pesto on spaghetti, pan seared brussels sprouts and baked shrimp. IT WAS KIND OF AMAZING. Not kind of, it was amazing. The avocado really allows the pesto and garlic flavors to adhere to the pasta. Mmmmm, going to recreate for sure. It was about 10 pm at this point and I was ready for beddy. Snuggled up with my chemo blanket, put on some, I don’t even know what I was watching, and went to sleep.

Tuesday, January 17, 2016. Tuesday, port day. Tears just typing this, get the tissues y’all. Woke up around 7 am. Did not have to get up until 8 am. Perks of staying in the city. Got out of bed around 8 am, brushed my teeth, washed my face. We left around 8:30 am. It was a 15 minute walk. I was not allowed to eat or drink before surgery. Dad got an egg and cheese on a roll at a food truck, love those things. He got me a glazed donut for after surgery, mmmm. Walked to the facility, walking in, tears are forming. I don’t want to do this, I don’t want to be sick, I don’t want my dad to have to go through this. I wasn’t allowed to take any ativan before, that didn’t help nobody. We finally got to the office and they asked my name, “Caitlin O’Neill”, date of birth, “8/12/88”, tears. Dad starts rubbing my back, “it’s ok, let it out”.

Side note: just had to stop for about a half hour to collect myself and cry to Kim. Yesterday was just, hard.

They put us in a private room, tears help I guess, lol. We were told to be there around 9 am, got there early. Did not get called in to prep until 9:20 ish. Dad stayed, they said he could come but he didn’t need to see me cry anymore. Walked into a hallway with a bunch of little rooms, everyone prepping for same day surgery. I got into the room with the aide. She asked me to change into a gown, keep underwear on. WHOOPS, wasn’t wearing anyway, hehe. They gave me some that were actually quite comfortable, spandex, boy short type, I quite enjoyed them (lol). The nurse came in to ask me questions; fever in the last 7 days, yes, cough, yes. I never answered yes to any questions like this, life will never be the same. I will always be circling breast cancer on history at the doctors office, weird. I cried on and off during her interview. She eventually put an IV in. I had to take ANOTHER pregnancy test, probably my 5th in the last month. Alllllll negative, hope I get a positive one in my future. They weren’t ready for me for another half hour so I turned on some cooking channel, the country singer was on, making chicken pot pie without the chicken. She got the recipe from her mother who was diagnosed with cancer, rolls eyes, and wanted to eat healthier and lots of vegetables. I get it, but like, you need protein.

Around 10:15 am it was time to go to surgery. A man came and transferred me while I laid in the bed. The trip felt like forever, went throughout may hallways. I went through the hallway I walked in, passed the elevators, through a set of double doors, through another set, jeez maybe through another set. I was rolled into the operating room head first. Looked up and there was a flat screen tv. “Caitlin O’Neill, mediport, 28 years old”. Fuck. I am fucking 28. Tears. “Hi Caitlin, I am Van, I will be your nurse today, making sure you’re safe, are you ok, what is wrong, it is going to be ok this is a simple procedure”….”I just, I don’t want to be here. I am ok, I understand the process, I just don’t want to be here and this sucks”…..”you’re right, it does”. Ah, thanks Van, just straight up, yup, this sucks, I liked it. I hate when people think I am stupid and don’t understand what’s going on. I realize it’s a simple procedure. When I had to get my PET scan I also cried. The guy said,
“it’s very simple”, LIKE I KNOW BRO, I WAS JUST DIAGNOSED WITH CANCER. UGH. Anyway, then the cardiologist introduced himself, then the two nurses aides. Then the doctor. My team was so nice, everyone as MSK is, it’s incredible. Tears lightly flowing on and off straight down the side of my face towards my ears. Finally I was brought over to the operating table. This large round thing moved up towards over my head, it was like a scanner type thing. It was time. Tears, heavy, heavy tears and bellows began. Van and the aid surrounded me, “Caitlin, it’s going to be ok, what’s wrong??”….”I AM 28 YEARS OLD, I SHOULDN’T BE HERE, I DON’T UNDERSTAND,  I SHOULDN’T BE HERE”. They comforted be as well as they could. Van said he was going to give me drugs soon to make it better. Three minutes later, drugs, tears stopped. Ah, love that.

It was all a bit of a blur from here on out. They covered the right side of my neck and I was turned to the left. I didn’t see anything. I remember being shot with numbing meds, a lot of pushing into the site and then, “alright, all done Caitlin”. Okay, cool. Mini tears still fell down the side of my face but, it was over. I went to the waiting room to be hooked up to heart monitors and get some IV fluids because this girl was DE-HY-DRAT-ED. Dad came in. The nurse said, “ok, here is some information regarding the port, this is your dad?”….”no, it’s my boyfriend”, I LOLed, so did dad. I make myself laugh too much, Kim agrees. I had a 12 pm appointment to get blood work, it was 12:15 pm by the time we got out of there. Made it to blood work by 12:30 pm, just in time to miss my appointment with Dr. Norton. Didn’t get in to see Dr. Norton until 1:15 pm. He and Karen both said the lump in my left armpit is nothing, just a little pimple, it is very superficial, as I suspected, not a lymph node. Phew. I asked them both how, how do we know this working? Karen said they can usually tell by feeling the lump shrink, but since my breast is so filled with water cysts, we can’t really tell that way. There is one lymph node, but it was so small to begin with they just aren’t sure. They both said we could do a scan about half way. I don’t think I would do that unless there would be a different plan if it wasn’t shrinking it or it spread. If they would say, let’s keep going, see what happens, then what’s the point? I don’t know. He says it will work. I need to just keep saying that to myself. I have feelings, like I think I said before, I feel like it will work. Then surgery, then radiation. Then reconstruction. Then marry Kim. I see it all in my head. When I see it in my head, it happens.

Got out of the appointment around 2 pm. They don’t start mixing your chemo until you leave the doctor. I signed into work for about an hour and a half. Feeling good. Got called in around 4 pm and BOOM, the pain meds must have worn off from the surgery, pain, pain, pain, tears, tears, tears. The nurse asked if they gave me anything more or a prescription. Nope. “First things first, we need to get you some pain meds”. Thank you ma’am. Oxycodone, mmmm, it helped. I was feeling sleepy, dad said “I am going to have to carry you through the train station”, yup maybe. Took my grey chemo blanket, turned to the left and repeated in my head, “this too shall pass, this too shall pass, this too shall pass”.  Thennnn the steroid went in and I was up. “cheez-it’s please dad”. Then ya know, same old, same old. I was readyyyyyyyyy to go. “ok, time for your lupron shot”, CAN A GIRL GET A BREAK HOLY SHIT. Shot done. I head to the bathroom and over hear the nurse say to dad, “she’s a trooper”….. he replied, “she really, really is”. As are you daddy.

Took the train home, felt good, started this blog, got some great texts from friends and family. Got home around 8:30 pm. DAMN. Kim had noodles and butter waiting for me. Today I had a white bagel with butter, half a glazed donut, cheez-it’s, bite of yogurt I just was not feeling at all, other half of glazed donut, noodles, then ice cream. WHOOOOOOPS. Exhausting, exhausting day. Exhausting. Exhausting. Exhausting. Mentally, wow. Worst so far. We can only go up from here. Oh, and we are going to Basking Ridge from now on, this is good. Will make it less of a trip, more just an appointment. I got a lecture from dad and Hillary regarding only taking oxycodone, she gave me five more, when I was in bad pain. Well ya know what, I was in bad pain tonight, mentally and physically. I also took ativan. I took control and chose to take these because I fucking wanted to. My response to Hillary was, “have you ever woken up, gone to get a port placed while still awake, walked to get blood taken, had an appointment with the doctor, gotten poked, sat around for two hours, gotten chemo, then ANOTHER shot then train home?”. She said I knowwwwwww, and it was over. I know not to fuck with these drugs. Should I have taken both, probably not, but ya know what? Tonight I wanted to sleep with no pain and that’s what I fucking did. (P.S., I didn’t take anymore, switched to tylenol and the pills are already in Kim’s “we don’t take these UNLESS WE HAVE TO draw” which never opens). I don’t mine minimal pain. I actually welcome it. I want to feel what is going on in my body. I don’t want to be numb to it, ok except for the other night. It is important to be in tune with your body, hello, how else would I have found my OWN CANCER.

January 18, 2016. Wednesday. Woke up at 2 am, hot flash. Shirt off, tank on. Back to sleep quick. Woke up around 8 am, Kim still snoozing. Was not in bad pain at all, those meds I am sure helped. It was sore, but not like yesterday. I woke up, went downstairs, made a bagel with cream cheese and raspberry jelly, mmm try it, so good. Took my three decadron and got to work. Did about 2.5 hours of work, spoke to my boss and three of my girls at different buildings. No rest for the weary. My boss said to me yesterday “You are so amazing even when sick! Its incredible. My inspiration”.Yup. Fuck cancer. After a few hours of work, Kim got to work on his PGA stuff. I was floating away into a tearful place. “What’s wrong baby”….”just tired, in some pain, just tired”. Mentally tired. Kim fed me some water, literally, while my hands stayed under the blanket. Asked him for some crackers. Feeling the nausea most today then I ever have before, maybe my mental state didn’t help.

Mom came over around 2 pm with my handicap parking pass, yahoo. I was in the bathroom when she walked in, we saw each other, embraced and started to cry. It is hard for her, I know it is, I can’t imagine. I know when she was going through it it was terrible for me too. I could only go to one chemo treatment with her it was too hard. We sat around chatting and watched the food network. We traded, she gave me some stuff, I gave her some paper towels, we have so many, lol. When mom left Kim and I headed out to Verizon. I got the iPhone 7 plus, I am not sure I love it, it is just too heavy. I have 14 days to decide, we will see. While we were at the phone store, an older woman walked in, “is there anyone else who can help me”…..”I will be done in ten minutes”…..”we are almost done” I said with a smile. Kim went to Trader Joe’s to stock up on those ice cream cookie sandwiches, yum. The guy helping me went in the back. The womanwho walked in said “excuse me, do you do your own coloring” referring to my red hair…. “no, it’s a wig” I said with a smirk, “I have cancer” she rolled her eyes and took a deep breath, “may I ask what kind”….”breast cancer”….”I had DCIS, where are you getting treated”….”at Sloan Kettering in NYC, switching to Basking Ridge from now on. I had chemo and my port placed yesterday”….”oh wow, well you look fantastic, like the picture of health, good luck”. People are so nice. When the guy came back, the woman said, “I am going to go next door, don’t you rush her, take your time” with a smile on her face. Sometimes I don’t want pity, sometimes it warming, this was warming. I told Kim what had happened when he came back, “you told her you had cancer?”….”yeah”, rolled his eye a bit….”she had cancer too”… “oh”…. because everyone fucking does. I don’t feel weird telling people and if they can’t handle it, I am sorry for that. I am an open book, if you can’t handle it, shut me up. Until then, let’s talk about it. I am proud to talk about it. I am proud of my wig and I feel good when I talk about it.

Kim and I went home, picking up chicken fingers and mashed
potatoes on the way home, for me of course. Just filling my cravings, at least I had some protein. It was good. Then an ice cream sandwich. Aye carumba. Listen, I don’t know, I have no excuse, I just don’t care. Let’s see how much I weigh tomorrow, lol.Up to bed around 7:30 pm, was just ready to lay and blog. Now we are here.

I was watching how to be single while writing this. They played this song. I can’t wait to dance to this at our wedding Kim. “I need you babyyyyyy, if it’s quite alright I need you baby, to warm the lonely nights I love you baby, trust in me when I say ok, it’s ok. Oh pretty babyyyyy, don’t let me down I pray, oh pretty baby, now that I found you stay, and let me love you, oh baby let me love you. You’re just too good to be true.”


That time I shaved my head.

That time I shaved my head.

If you are just starting to follow along, start here, then here, then here, then here then here. Or just skip it all, I have cancer….. here’s where we are now.

January 2, 2017. Monday. Most everyone had off today but since I turned to hourly at work, I gotta work to earn my coins! I love working on holidays though, it is so quite, no traffic and people who usually need me aren’t there. I packed some leftover ravioli and chicken parm for lunch, yum. I got a lot of work done and I was planning on working an 8 hour today. I got in around 9 am however around 3 pm, I shut down. I felt accomplished, 6 hours seems to be my time. Left work, called Kim, he was relaxing at home. I got home and we watched The Kitchen, it is Kim’s favorite show and it is pretty amazing if you ask me. I wasn’t hungry after I got home after having a big lunch so neither of us knew what we wanted. However, my hunger hits in a split second. I was going to make Ed a ham, American cheese, spicy mustard with mayo sandwich on whole wheat bread for lunch tomorrow at MSK, our ham wasn’t going to be good for much longer. After making his and packing the best potato chips ever, I decided to make one for myself, with chips and leftover onion dip from NYE (oye vey). Then I ate two Ghirardelli chocolates (thanks Gina!), a chocolate chip cookie. Maybe I had some Talenti gelato chocolate chip cookie dough, oh no, that was Sunday night. Getting all my sugar cravings mixed up. I think I was stress eating. Bleh. Hillary came over around 8 pm. She is staying the week as Kim is off to Florida on Wednesday. He booked his annual trip with his cousin Dave. They go down to Palm Beach for the week to visit their grandparents and play LOTS of golf. At first he said he was not going to go, I said no, of course you need to go, you will need a break. When it got closer and treatment started I wasn’t feeling the same. I actually asked him to cut it short but then rebuked my request. He REALLY needs a break and Hillary will be here and mom is coming up, friends coming for sleepover, Kim’s mom coming up for dinner and making eggplant parm, YUM, others coming up as well. I won’t even know he is gone! No, I will, but it will all be okay.

Anyway, Hillary,  Kim & I watched Cake Wars as one of my best friends little brothers was on!!! So cool, he did great , came in 3rd (you rock Daniel!). Got in bed around 10 pm and the tears came. I haven’t cried in a while, go me. I just didn’t want to go to chemo the next day. “I don’t wanna go, I just don’t” …… “but you have to go, you have to get better for me”. This is true. This isn’t all about me really. I need to get better for everyone else. I can do it. I can do it for them as well as myself. Fell asleep around 11:30 pm, 24 was getting intense!

January 3. 2016. Tuesday. Woke up around 7 am for 7:45 am pick up from dad. Bleh. Put on my usual leggings, sweater and Uggs I’ve had for years(sssssss). Those shits last. Dad got here around 8 am, traffic. HE SHAVED HIS HEAD AND BEARD. My dad is bald on top but has been growing out his pony tail (yes, I said pony tail) for a long time now and beard, like cool beard, that he got compliments on a lot and loved. “Solidarity” he said as tears started to run down my face.


We got in pretty quick, minimal traffic which was surprising with the rain. Got in around 9:30 am for 10 am blood. Parked in the MSK parking. It was so clean, people were so nice and it was valet. We had been parking in a deck closer to the center we were going because the first day the line was soooo long. But this one was $10 cheaper. Look into parking and stuff. A few tears fell as we walked toward the breast center because well, I don’t want chemo! Oh well. Got in, got blood drawn from my finger as I do each time to look at my WBC, platelets, etc. everything normal! Woot!

Went up and saw the NP and Dr. Norton around 10:30 am. They are happy with how I look/feel. The NP said she thinks the lymph node may actually be getting smaller already. Not sure about that though. Yesterday my hair starting falling out one strand, then another, then another. Today, my hair started FALLING OUT. A lot around my hairline, about 10 strands at a time. Not just a few times, every time. I texted Kim, “get the razor ready, it’s happening tonight”….”going to the store right now, we will get a new one”. Then texted mom, “you need to come up tomorrow with your wigs, mine aren’t coming in until end of week or next week”…..”ok honey”. Relief and sadness went through me. I’m losing my hair. It was everywhere. Right on time like they said. I couldn’t live like that for one more day. I took 1 mg of Ativan and waited for treatment for 12:45 pm appointment. Didn’t get in until 2:45 pm! Everyone was getting treatment after the holidays. Oh well, thankful I’m getting treated there. Walked in and we were in suite 14. Almost called ahead to get suite 8 like last time but I’m working on my OCD. I got the nurse Nora who came in after the first nurse missed my vein last time. I was really happy. Until she missed twice, and another nurse missed, 4th times a charm! She said I was cold, true, and maybe I needed to hydrate more before treatment, true. Getting a port was spoken about and the nurse e-mailed Dr. Norton.

We didn’t start treatment until 4 pm. They slowed down the second portion of the treatment (C) to help with the headache from 30 minutes to 45 minutes. We were out of there by 5:30 pm and we were READY to go. Kim was texting Hillary and I all day. He was making meatloaf, mashed potatoes and green beans. Kim doesn’t really cook, or he didn’t in the past. He is basically learning, for himself, and for me. He watches a lot of shows on the food network. So he was making meatloaf, can’t be too hard, loaf of meat. He made this by Ree Drummond. We had no idea until we walked in. IT WAS AMAZING. There was pork, beef, parmesan, special homemade sauce, fresh mashed potatoes, green beans with almonds. Like I can cook, I don’t think I could have done what he did. He truly is amazing and surprises me more and more everyday and I am not just saying that. If he sucked during this, I would tell you. He had the food plated for Hillary and I, with sauce, and drinks and just wow. We got home sat down and I ate 95% of it. That didn’t happen last time. They really give you so much nausea medication in your IV you don’t really have any stomach issues. Oh, other than constipation. Omg, my friend got me the squatty potty. More than a few of my friends have it and it disturbed me at first. I haven’t try it yet, I will get back to you. Anyway, dinner was great, then it was time to shave my head.

Popped another mg of ativan because, BECAUSE DUH I’M A 28 YEAR OLD WOMAN WHO HAS A BOYFRIEND AND WAS GOING TO SHAVE MY HEAD. Prior to even being diagnosed Kim said he would shave his head. He is balding on the top so it is kind of necessary but I would have never made him do it, probably suggested it. One of his golf members hugged him when he found out and said “you know what this means right, you actually have to shave your head”….. “I know man”. LOL. I was feeling anxious of course, sat for about 10 minutes and then the anticipation was just building and I couldn’t take it anymore. “Let’s just do it”, I said. I grabbed a stool from my coffee bar, Hillary grabbed the garbage bags to put underneath, Kim prepped the razor. We were all kind of tiptoeing around each other, no one really knew that to say. The razor kit came with scissors so I just started hacking away at my hair, more as a joke. Like hello…..

It was feeling really weird at this point, I was feeling nauseous. Hillary was behind me, tears falling down her face quickly, eyes red. It was funny and sad and every emotion in between. Hillary cut a few pieces off too. Then, it was time, “just do it Kim, do it”. He started with a 2; ZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ, the noise was one of the worst I’ve ever heard. It was intense which was good but just so close to my ear. Tears continued to roll at this point. Kim was doing well, he just went in on it, knowing that was how it was going to have to be if we were going to get this done. After he got the right side off, and I felt it, it was kind of amazing. Like wow, I have no hair right here. KEEP GOING! He did the back, then the left side then we played with a little mohawk action. Then I just said “just do it”.

It was gone. My hair was gone. So much of it. My hair is sooooo thick. The individual pieces themselves are sooooo thick. Were, they were thick. We decided to go down to a 1, the lady at the wig place suggested a 1. Plus the hair will still fall out and I would rather them be very small pieces. So, it was over. I had no hair. “I mean, you don’t look bad, you look good” – Kim. Ten minutes later, “I mean, I really like it, it looks really good” – Kim. In bed that night, “GI Jane, like this is kind of cool, I really like it” – Kim. Even if he didn’t mean it, which Kim doesn’t really say stuff he doesn’t mean, it still made me feel good. Guys, you have to say it, and you have to say it like that, just FYI. I jumped in the shower, hair everywhere. SHORT SHOWER NO HAIR LOVED ITTTTTT. Kim was up next.

He started on himself then I finished him up in the back. He looked amazing. He then shaved his beard off for his Florida trip and WOW. Not to get in too deep, but even day of chemo, I would have done the dirty he looked so good but, I did have chemo and I don’t think you can swap fluids for 5 days because of the A part of the chemo, bummer. We got in bed and I was TIRED. Almost a good tired. The day was over, another treatment done, my head is shaved and Kim is next to me and Hillary was upstairs. Good day.

January 4, 2016. Wednesday. I woke up at 5 am, ripped off my shirt and pants because I was SWEATING. Took 0.5 mg of Ativan and I think started watching Sex and the City on my phone? I am not even sure I think I passed out not too far after. Slept until 8 am. Turned over, Kim opened his eyes. He just started rubbing my head. I said,”babe, we’re bald”…. “I know, it’s awesome”. We got up, Kim continued to pack, shower, etc. for his trip. I had cereal as the we met with the RD today. She recommended it, never thought of it. Good idea. I had it with banana, slivered (is that a word, silvered? no) and honey. It was…… decent. I’ll eat it. I actually was craving coffee which I was nottttttt at this point two weeks ago. Kim made his and I was drinking some of that because he wanted to make sure I would finish an entire one. Ugh. Then he finally made me some and I only drank half, hehe.

Kim left for Florida around 11 am. No tears. It is only a week and I pretty much have every other day filled up with his or my family plus friends in between. I signed into work for about 3 hours, feeling really good and productive, not tired at all. Hillary and I then had to head to BR MSK for my Nuelasta shot because the other one malfunctioned that I had at my house. We then stopped at shop rite. I wore my hat and didn’t really think anything of it. I wonder what other people thought. The good thing is the fact that it is winter and it’s pretty normal to wear a hat and I could just have really short hair (or shaved). We collected a few things we needed, and of course a few things we didn’t need like this, I will let you know how it is. While we were checking out, I was putting my phone number into the credit card swiper thing. I was using my knuckle because so many people touch those things. I messed up the number and said, “whoops, can you restart it, I messed it up”. The young gentleman, probably 25-30 years of age, said, “I will put it in, I see you’re a germophobe” with a smile on his face, I said, “haha, yeah, I am sick, I don’t want to get all the germs”, he said, “I respect that, I get it”. I think he thought I meant I had OCD or some other type of mental illness so I said, “oh, no, I actually have cancer”. He was a little bit taken aback but after three seconds said, “when where you diagnosed?”. It made me feel good that I didn’t scare the crap out of him. I said, “about a month and a half ago, that’s why I am wearing this hat, we shaved my head last night, eek!” with a smile on my face. He replied, “oh, wow, you still look beautiful”. YA MADE MY DAY SIR. We finished the transaction and he held on to the receipt until I looked him in the eye and said, “have a great day” with huge smile on his face. So thankful for people like you sir.

Hillary and I got home, fixed the malfunctioned Neulasta shot, whoops (no she did, I sat on the couch, and then pulled out every cheese and cracker we and in the house leftover from NYE. Yum. We started noshing. Kara then came over and we were all just hanging out. Around 6:30 pm I started to go a bit down hill. Head was on the pillow and blanket was pulled up. Hillary warmed up some homemade chicken noodle soup my friend sent over (thank you Gina!!!). It was delicious and exactly what I needed. We headed up to bed around 8-9 pm and watched the Anthony Weiner documentary on Showtime. We recommend it. Fell asleep around 10:30 pm after a convo with Kim. Hoping tomorrow will be a good day as well.


New year, same cancer.

New year, same cancer.

December 30, 2016. Friday (Fri-yay). Today was a better day. The tears that were flowing yesterday finally stopped and I felt good. I made it to work around 9:30 am and worked until 3:30 pm. My new afternoon snack is peanut butter stuffed pretzels and a coke. I think I over did it on the pretzels though, I packed A LOT, but it was kind of my lunch, whoops. I am a dietitian and I know exactly what to eat, why am I not eating more vegetables and a more balanced diet? I don’t know. I guess because I want peanut butter and I want pretzels and I want coke and I don’t really give a sh*t about it right now. I guess I should though right? I don’t know. I am meeting with the RD who works at MSK before my next treatment. Yeah, I can research and look up stuff myself but I just don’t feel like it and she is the expert in nutrition and cancer. What will I ask her; 1. Is there any evidence regarding nutrition and chemo treatment that either helps or hinders the treatment; i.e. too much sugar, fat etc.? Help, I can’t poop (I am now, but like how can I without miralax?)(If she says fruits, vegetables and water, BYE). Ummmm I don’t know what else. She contacted me when I first started and she sent me the “usual” starter pack. The first thing it talked about was how not to gain weight. WHAT, I AM GOING TO GAIN WEIGHT?? But one of my silver linings was losing weight. I can see how you gain weight. Right after treatment I definitely don’t eat that much. A few days later I was eating like a HORSE. Then it kind of went back to normal; eating like a small horse. The steroids make you hungry and your body is craving sugar. Oh yes, add that to the list, why am I craving so much sugar ma’am? I haven’t gained any weight. I have been checking my weight. I don’t want to gain too much too fast, it can also be an indicator of water build up, kidney issues, a lot of things. I also don’t want to lose too much weight too fast, also a health indicator. I waver between 157-160. Goal; don’t go over 160 and don’t go under 150. I am more concerned about the weight loss when I start doing weekly treatments (starting February 16th). We will figure that out when we get there.

Got home from work around 4 pm, changed into my PJ’s and started watching Gilmore Girls. It was dark in our house, we have black out shades downstairs and I was ready to CHILL. Kim was in bed, he has a bit of a respiratory infection he is trying to fight. I haven’t caught it thank goodness. Lots of hand washing going on in our house. I took some Toll House chocolate chip cookies out of the freezer to make for a party. Kim’s cousin Nick and his wife Kara live about 10 minutes from us. They are redoing their kitchen and so they were have a, I forget what they called it, demolition, reconstruction, party. There were hammers and markers, we were knocking down walls and writing on them. The guys got A LITTLE out of hand. They took two walls completely down lol. There was pizza, yum. Got home around 10:30 pm. We stopped at Walgreens to get Kim some NyQuil cold and flu to help his cough.

December 31, 2016. Saturday. Today was a big day. Wig shopping. Last night I was getting nervous about it. It could really go either way. It could be fun, playful, as exciting as it can really get, or, it could be devastating, tear producing and depressing. I woke up around 8 am, had a cinnamon raisin bagel toasted with cream cheese and jelly. Hillary came over around 11 am. She was going to a NYE wedding and wanted to look at some of my dresses. She was coming wig shopping with me along with my former internship director, Kathleen. Have I talked about her yet? She is one of the greatest humans I know. She went through breast cancer at 33 and 40, the latter portion of it being metastatic in her lungs. She did a clinical trial and it worked. She’s cancer free and living life. We went to Paris together with a small group including her daughter Lauren and my Aunt Noreen. The Eiffel Tower was the most beautiful thing I have ever seen. When we were at lunch, if they ran out of bread, they would go down the street to the local baker, so fresh. It was very heavy though. The capers, the cream. I had a bit of a meltdown when we were there actually. I am a control freak sometimes, I was worse back then. Every last minute was planned for us, which was a beautiful thing for the cost we paid, however, it got. to. me. The last straw was when we went to a museum and the tour guide ORDERED FOOD FOR US AND IT WAS ALL THE SAME THING. I cried, threw up, went back to the hotel and snuggled with Barney (YUP, I brought Barney, he is currently upstairs in our loft, Kim doesn’t get along with him, men, ya know?). My poop schedule was off then too, history repeats itself. Was it times like these that caused this cancer? I am truly unsure. When we get the genomic testing back, and if it is negative for any mutation, then it has to be. Prior to seeing the psychologist, I dealt with stress POORLY, internally and it ate me alive. After this, ain’t no stress gonna eat me alive, I will chew it, spit it out and flush it down the toilet.

Anyway, wig shopping. I made an appointment at a place 15 minutes from  my house called Just For You Center. MSK actually recommended it but I found it prior to seeing them. I felt pretty good on the way. I told Hillary and Kathleen, “there could be tears today btw”, they both said, “I know”. We showed up a little early, they were very welcoming. I filled out my name, address, doctor, insurance. I called my insurance company a few weeks ago to see how much of a wig they will cover, NOTHING. How sad is that? I don’t expect a lot, maybe a few hundred bucks, one hundred bucks? The woman said to send it to my insurance anyway and keep it for my taxes. We went into the room, so many heads, so many wigs. It was pretty cool. I did some googling and I knew there was a wide range of wigs; synthetic, human hair, wait, no that’s all I knew. The woman went on to say there were European, Asian, I forget what else and the price range went from a few hundred to $3,000. I wasn’t going to skimp on a wig. I decided to find one that is very close to my hair. I have not told everyone I work with about my diagnosis and I go to about 10 different buildings so that is a lot of people. My worst nightmare would be to not find anything. I started trying stuff on, a few were funny, very mom-ish. I tried on about 5 and then the woman helping us went out to grab another one. I tried it one and it felt good, it looked right and it was so soft. It is a little bit lighter than my hair color with well done highlights. It is longer than my hair but it comes in and I get it styled the way I want, everything included in the price. WE FOUND ONE. Thank goodness. Now, it was on to a cheaper, synthetic one for fun! I tried on a few blond ones, I can never be blonde, wah. Kim wanted me to get a red one and at first I thought, weirdo, but I tried it on, PERFECT. It made my blue eyes pop. It’s long, brunette based with red in it, I kind of love it. Maybe I will dye my hair red when it comes back in. I also got a “sleeping cap”, it’s just a grey simple cap, kind of cute and then a purple, cancer looking thing that you tie and its long in the back, very comfy. Just stuff to chill in. The wig will take about a week to come in. I haven’t started losing any hair at all. The normal few strands falling out in the shower but otherwise nothing. I think after the second treatment it will really start to go, we will see though.

Good experience. Went home and then immediately went to Shoprite. We were having a few people over for NYE. Shoprite was NUTS. No parking spots. I made chicken parm, half with regular tomato sauce, half with vodka sauce. If you haven’t tried that, then please do. I also made (frozen) ravioli from Costco, yummy. Bought chips and dip, cheddar, brie, goat cheese, love a good cheese platter. My friend picked up pepper jelly from Trader Joe’s for me, I have been cravingggg it. Have you had that? No? Please, do yourself a favor and try it,with brie on your favorite cracker. The night went well, low key. They left around 10:30 pm, half went home, half to go out to the bar. Cleaned all the dishes and was in bed by 11 pm. I am trying to really do a lot around the house while I am feeling good as Kim does it all when I am down. Kim was in bed by 11:30 pm and we were watching 24 when midnight hit and there were fireworks we could see from our bedroom. It was kind of fabulous. I was asleep by 12:15 am, ready for 2017. New Year resolutions? I mean, I am sure you can guess, kick cancer’s ass. That is pretty much it. I don’t really believe in NY resolutions. I think you should wake up each day with intentions and try to achieve them. If you try to accomplish too much, you won’t and you will fail. Day by day, simplicity. Now, 2018 goals: dog (chocolate lab maybe), house (small, fireplace, big kitchen, cozy), grow hair (ya know), forget about 2017.

January, 1, 2017. Sunday. I can’t wait to write an entry for January 1, 2018. I think it will go like this. “Remember that time I had cancer, LOL, ME TOO. What an exhausting year. It’s over. Life is fabulous”. Waking up sober on NYE is pretty amazing. Last year I was really drunk. Woke up around 9 am, Kim was out of bed first, lately I am the first one out of bed. I was ready to sleep in a bit more but he was just not having it, of course. Mom was coming up for brunch. We got up and started cooking. Pancakes, bacon, eggs, coffee, yummmmm. After mom left and Kim did the dishes (whoops), Kim and I went for a walk. We walked down to a local golf course, Kim hit a few balls (illegally) and we came home. It was about an hour. I felt invigorated. I made a to do list. First on the list, clean out three of my bags, purse, work bag, work/chemo/everything bag. I did that, took a while. Felt good. After that, I felt tiiiiiiiiiiiiiired. Decided to take a break before charging ahead on the list, but then I got in bed, and I took a two hour nap. I’ve decided to start watching Sex and the City from season 1 on HBO GO, love this show. Woke up feeling hungry. I was thinking about dinner all day because I wanted to make chicken parm sliders on leftover garlic bread, LIKE HELLO. It was everything I imagined and more. Kim made some angel hair pasta and threw in left over bacon from this morning, grilled chicken from the other night and left over 4 cheese pasta sauce. We are really bad at eating leftovers but tonight we were good. I packed my lunch; ravioli, chicken parm, pineapple, strawberries, grapes (I am trying here) and a coke (whoops), took a shower and now blogging. Didn’t get to anything else on my list which included laundry (I did clean the towels though), clean my closet room (small room in our townhouse that is used as my entire closet, yes, lucky woman), clean my vanity. Last on the list was to smile, CHECK.



… or lack thereof.

I told myself I was going to be very honest on this blog. Chemo, steroids, anti nausea medication and stress make you not poop. So, if you are starting chemo, start a miralax/fiber regiment. They will tell you to drink a lot of water (everyone will tell you 100 times) or eat a lot of fiber (like I know) and it won’t help. I chug water and I make spinach smoothies and I try but, no. Miralax does help, slowly but surely. Ok, no more poop talk (for now).

I wasn’t sure what I was going to have to talk about on here since I was feeling soooo good on Monday and Tuesday, and then…. I didn’t feel good.

December 26, 2016. Monday, day after Christmas. It was the first day I woke up without a headache. I didn’t think I was going to have those days. I woke up, made myself an egg and cheese sandwich with ketchup (yum). Before leaving for work I told Kim I was really feeling good and he said, “I know, I can tell, you seem good”. Went to work, got a lot done. I called Kim on my way home. He played golf (FREEZING/crazy) and he was just getting out of the shower. I wanted to stop at Shoprite on the way home, we needed food. I just wanted to see what he wanted at the store but he said he would come, he’s good like that. Got in the car and said, “If you called me 5 minutes later, I would have been on the couch and said no”…..”You didn’t have to come honey, I just wanted to see what you wanted”……”but I like to be near you”. I know when he says that he is joking but it still makes me feel good. We went to Shoprite hungry, you know what that means; cheddar popcorn, oatmeal creme pies, bacon…… mmmm. Went home, ate something a friend brought over (after going grocery shopping, LOL) and relaxed. Today felt “normal”.

December 27, 2016. Tuesday. Woke up feeling good again. I even talked to someone about how this week off after chemo is just going to be a “normal” week for me, cool! Ugh. Anyway, got to work, was training an RD into a new building. The building is 10 stories, I was taking the stairs up and down and up and up and up and down and down and up and down and up. I was trying to get some exercise in because I haven’t been and the NP recommended to do it if I could. I even started to jog (that was like two steps). It was warm that day and I wore boots and at one point was just feeling overheated and nauseous. Called my Aunt Noreen on the way home. Got home and made a spinach, peach, cherry, blueberry smoothie. At around 5:45 pm the girls starting showing up for yoga (Hillary, Rachel, Meg and Kara). We went to this place that is a 3 minute walk from my house. Our friend from HS actually teaches the class. It was a really good class. Yoga is hard. Planks, downward dogs, ugh. I do this thing sometimes where if there is a challenge, I say “If you do this, you will….. marry someone who looks like Marc Consuelos” (you do honey). So, we had to hold a plank for 5 deep breaths, so I said to myself, “If you do this, you will beat cancer”, welp, I DID IT GUYS. Boom. I was a little dizzy by the end of the class and ready for dinner.

I thawed some two pounds of ground meat and asked Kim to just cook it and put the taco seasoning in it. Simple. Well, we come home….. the meat is cooked and there is every topping you could ever want beautifully displayed on the kitchen table; sour cream, taco sauce, corn salsa,refried beans, black beans, spinach, cheese, BACON (HE COOKED BACON). He really is as good as he sounds. All the girls and I sat down and NOSHED HARD. Hard and soft tacos available (Tip:take the soft taco, put the sour cream on it, then sprinkle cheese then wrap it around the hard taco and continue to stuff, you’ll never eat it any other way). The ladies left and I was doing the dishes and started to feel tiiiiiiiiiiiiiiired, like, ouch tired. Made my nightly gatorade and miralax drink and went up to bed. I was complaining how tired I was like a little girl, about 5 years old, ask Kim, it was ugly. Went to sleep, hard….. then 4 am came.

December 28, 2016. Wednesday. 4 am, woke up, throat hurt when I swallowed, head hurt… this doesn’t seem normal. Got up and went to the bathroom. I think I took my temperature at this point:99.4. My baseline is low at 97.7 (good to know your baseline) so I thought it was a little high. I was also feeling hot, turned the heat down and went back to sleep. Woke up around 8 am, temperature:99.6. I was on the couch at this point, not feeling well, chugging water. I was taking my temperature every half hour at this point:99.6, 99.8, 100.2. No. The doctor said to call when my temperature hit 100.4 however it was creeping up quickly and since my baseline is lower than usual I was starting to get nervous. The NP said not to take tylenol without taking your temperature first and you don’t want the tylenol to mask whatever is really going on. I called and they said the nurse would call me back. I kept taking my temperature every 15 minutes and it was wavering but never went over 100.2. I was feeling a little nauseous but felt like there was post nasal drip happening. Eventually got sick but it was just phlegm (ew, that’s how you spell that, so it’s not flem?). My nose was also bleeding a little but not heavily and it was just from the inside of my nostril, I didn’t use the humidifier last night. Yup, this is life. I went back to bed around 10 am right when the nurse called. I explained what was going on and she said it is ok and it is most likely not related to my blood count (I think they look for low platelets and WBC). She said it is ok if I take tylenol and just monitor my temperature. If it continues to go up we will need to check my blood. This made me feel much better. I of course had all the thoughts of, “oh no, hospital, IV fluids, antibiotics, I won’t be able to poop even more, missing work”, the usual thoughts. Took 1 tylenol and passed out until 12:30 pm. Slept on and off throughout the day.

Kim went to get his new drivers license, after making me chicken noodle soup. He called me on the way home, “chicken caesar salad for dinner? Let’s crack open that George Foreman!”. We got a George Foreman about a month ago and still haven’t opened it. He didn’t expect me to open it or get it ready so I got to out of bed, took it out of the box and got it all set up. Kim is doing everything. Cleaning, laundry, taking care of me. The days that I am down I really start to feel guilty. People say, “don’t worry, you can’t help it”, but I do worry. Also, this means after this is all done I am really going to have to be a GREAT girlfriend/wife for the REST OF OUR LIVES, UGH, I am already exhausted. Lol. Sometimes I say we need to get a wife. I really don’t like to clean, do laundry, pick up his socks and really hate picking up my own. Yup, I am the man in the relationship. I don’t close the drawers, I throw my dirty laundry next to the basket instead of in it and “let’s play a game; how many pairs of shoes can Caitlin leave in the family room?”- end quote, Kim. Yup, this is me. I do like to cook, go grocery shopping and pay for dinner? Balance y’all. Kim made a delicious chicken caesar salad then made chocolate cake in a mug, IT WAS AMAZING. Around 7 pm it was time for me to get back in bed. I had a bit of a headache, took some tylenol and ativan. I was up until about 11:30 pm, why!? Finally fell asleep.

December 29, 2016. Thursday. Woke up. Shower time. My scalp is so dry. Ladies, you know that feeling when you have your hair in ponytail for a really long time and let it down and your scalp feels stiff? IT FEELS LIKE THAT EVERYWHERE, ALL THE TIME. I think it is dry and preparing to fall out? I don’t know. I keep scratching it and Kim tells me to shower. I am not scratching because I am dirty, I shower (not as often as he would like, but that’s like twice a day, or everyday. I am clean). It makes me look forward to having no hair so I can just moisturize the heck out of my bald head. Mmmmm. Went to work. Brought two pieces of ice in a plastic bag to ice my nose. Why you ask? Oh, just because I have a growth on the left tip of my nose. It’s like an ingrown pimple. You ever get those? It’s like on the inside of my nose but making my nose swollen and red, I am like Rudolph. It is so sore. So I iced it on the way to work then put some powder on it. Woof. I did not put any mascara on because I have a small stye on my left eye (hi, bye, lie, tie). I guess I could have, I just don’t give a sh*t. Went to work, felt very, very tired. Pushed through. Around 1 pm had a coke. Coffee isn’t going down. I know coke is bad for you and it’s sugar and it probably causes cancer, but it cures life. My headache went away and I pushed through for a few more hours of work. I think I am getting my period soon from the shot. I am not due for a while but I am more emotional like that time of the month and, hello, this pimple growth.

I started crying on the way home. When I think about going back to chemo, it hurts my soul. It makes me nauseous. It makes me want to cry. I don’t want to go back. Why would you want to go back somewhere to sit and have something pumped in your body that makes you feel tired, nauseous, hungry, not sleepy, then sleepy, not feel like yourself, like someone has taken over your body? YOU DON’T WANT TO. You want to stay home under your covers and pretend that it isn’t happening. I called mom thinking I would stop crying but it just came harder. I got into that ugly cry. I hate doing that with her because then she starts to cry and she makes me want to cry more. She said she wishes she could take it for me. I giggled because she already did it! Moms are the best. I just cried heavily saying I don’t want to go back, I don’t want to be tired anymore, I just don’t want to. She said “I know honey, but you will get through this and it will be okay”, sobbing as well. It’s just sad. She went out to dinner with one of her girlfriends (thank you), “Meg knows Dr. Norton, she said he is the best in the world”. I know he is and I am very thankful for that. I don’t doubt that I am going to be ok. I don’t doubt that I will make it through this. I just, I am just tired of it already. People are praising me for being positive and strong and I think most days I am. Today, I was weak. Today, I was emotional. Today, I didn’t want to have cancer anymore. Today, and right now, as I write this, I just want to cry. It’s ok. It’s going to be ok. As Aunt Allison said, “Ya know this really sucks, it all sucks, but the hardest part is that everyday you still have cancer. No matter if you’re having a great day or not, you are still going through this and you just can’t forget it”. She is exactly right. No matter if I get everything checked off on my list at work, if Kim and I have a great dinner, if I feel like a million bucks, right now I have cancer and am going through chemo and my body isn’t my own, it is married to Sloan Kettering. I can’t wait for the divorce.

Tomorrow will be better. Tomorrow I will wake up and make myself smile. Tomorrow I will try to forget for a little bit that I have cancer because other than this fucking cancer, my life is pretty fucking amazing.

Cancer stinks, but my life doesn’t. 

Cancer stinks, but my life doesn’t. 

December 20,2016. The anxiety I was feeling prior to chemo was pretty intense. I cried the night before, on the way (took some Ativan), in the facility and when I was about to be hooked up. My NP said it’s pretty anticlimactic and she was semi-correct.

Dad and I got called into our private suite (hello beautiful) at 11:45 am on the dot. Brought to suite 8 and the nurse followed in shortly after.

Why am I smiling? Why not? I’m at an amazing facility, my own room, tv, snuggling blanket & hat – “chemo gifts” (thanks Bek, Nicole & Hill) and my daddy is by my side along with multiple others in spirit. I will be using my blanket (not pictured, oh wait, it’s in the bottom right hand corner) each treatment and it will be stowed away at the house, germs!

The nurse was wonderful, very attentive and sweet. At MSK they do not use ports because they do not feel like they are necessary and we “will trust the vein until we can’t anymore”. The nurse tried to get one vein but it didn’t go over well so someone else tried another one and it worked beautifully. I was getting normal saline during the entire treatment which is good, dehydration is a big risk for chemo patients. I received AC chemo, A is one portion that is pushed in by the nurse, it is red, it will make your urine red for a day or two. The C portion is a drip that lasted for about a half hour, this will differ based on your weight and what the doctor wants to get. I received two anti-nausea meds and a steroid during treatment I believe. Sometimes I Just don’t want to know what I am getting, is that ignorant? Maybe, but sometimes I just want to be in the cloud.

During the beginning of treatment I felt a cold sensation in the back of my throat. I took a deep breath in and needed to cough. The nurse said it may be the steroid. It didn’t get any worse and was gone before treatment was over. I didn’t really feel much during treatment, started to feel tired by the end, but wasn’t sure if that was just from the climax of chemo or from the medication. That’s the thing, you’re getting so much in your body, you have so many emotions, who really knows what is causing what?

At the end of treatment, when the IV was done, dad and I went for a high-five, well he stopped and said “GERMS”, then used the hand sanitizer and we switched to a pound “FIRST ONE DONE!!!”. It was exciting, it was done, the first one was done. I then got a lupron shot. It “shuts down” your ovaries for future babies. They asked if I wanted to freeze some eggs but it would put off treatment. I have never been 100% on kids. I actually see myself adopting a beautiful Asian girl. I am interested in what pregnancy feels like however I will survive without it. The lupron shot will help however it may throw me into menopause. Dad and I are going to do more research and see if I am going to continue them. They are every 4 weeks. More research.

I was feeling pretty hungry so we walked around the corner to Bagel Works. I got an everything bagel with ham, American cheese and yellow mustard. We then stopped at a placed called Java Girl that we have passed a few times during out travels and it looked so cute. I got a latte.
We got in the car and I made my usual texts and calls. “All done. Feeling good” I said. Ate half my bagel, had a few sips of latte and then started to feel a bit tired. By the time we were home, about an hour and a half later I was very ready to get in bed. Dad and I walked in the house with some new flowers (thanks Sam and Meg), plus chocolate, Bose headphones (like wow), batteries, Gatorade, water bottles and more (Kim and Pat made a Costco run, thanks Pat!!). I wanted to get right in bed, their were a few tears, but more like, this was a long day, I want to get in bed, I’m tired, tears. Called my mom, got three different kinds of crackers delivered to my bed with 3 different fluids and relaxed. I went back and forth from closing my eyes and watching some tv.

By about 8:15 pm I was feeling tired and ready for bed but the steroid really keeps your heart racing. I took some ativan, they say it helps with anxiety, nausea and sleep. Honestly, it didn’t do much. The headache was making me more nauseous than the actually chemo I think. I am prone to headaches and nausea so this isn’t good. I took zofran around 10:15 pm, finding out later that it can cause headaches (living and learning y’all). Had a few dry heaving moments but nothing coming up which is good, don’t want to get dehydrated (is this too much? Too bad, I have cancer, NO RULES) (lol guys). Around 10:45 pm the tears and frustration really started to sink in. We decided to call the emergency number. I just wanted to make sure I could take tylenol after taking everything else. She said yes. I took a 500 mg tylenol extra strength and was asleep by 11 pm.

December 21, 2016. I woke up this morning around 6-7 am feeling pretty good. Minimal headache, more in a crown form around my head and in my temples. Around 8:30 am I took my 3 decadron pills and ate 1/2 a sandwich sized English muffin with PB and J, it says take with food or milk. This is for nausea prevention and it has a steroid in it for inflammation. I will take this tomorrow as well. Kim left for work around 9:30 am and I was already starting to dose off. He placed a pillow over my head, I like to be in a fort sometimes, keeps the sunlight out, and gave me my usual morning kisses goodbye. I slept until about 11 am and felt really quite good at this point. No headache and felt good energy. I finished the other half of the sandwich, this one had butter and jelly, yumz. Did some work from home and just relaxed in bed. Around 2 pm I attempted to drink some coffee, had one sip, but it was a on go. Was feeling hungry so I had some Club grain cheese and crackers with Laughing Cow swiss cheese and block cheddar. The cheddar tasted weird to me; is it the medication? Not sure, I just love cheddar cheese. Mom came over for ravioli. Kim & Pat got a hugggge bag from Costco. They were good and settled pretty well. My girlfriend who lives 3 houses down left a noted and three tea bags “Ginger, positive energy and stress relief”. People are really amazing. I gave myself a Neulasta shot before dinner. Helps the bone marrow produce WBC since the chemo is reallly decreasing them.

Mom left around 6:30 pm and my girlfriend Kara stopped over around 7:30 pm. She was here for five minutes before I got a nose bleed form my left nostril. It was a little faster than the usual dry heat nosebleed so I called the on call MD immediately. If they give you an on call number and you have 0.0001% feeling of thinking you need to check something, USE IT. This is the second time in two days for me, and I am not even 48 hours from my first chemo treatment (lol). The MD called me back as the nosebleed was stopping. She said it is most likely not related to the chemo rather dry heat, and our house is VERY dry. Kim immediately cleaned out the humidifier, filled it up and got it going. Kara was on amazon ordering a humidifier monitor for the room immediately. I truly am a lucky person. A few tears after that incident because you’re still scared it could be related to the chemo.

When Kara left there were more tears. Kim said he was going to be out from 6-7 pm, love it, go get a drink with friends, you need a break from this shit. However he wasn’t home when I got the nosebleed and texted me during “how’s it going”, immediate response, “not good, nosebleed, come home”. He was home immediately. After Kara left I just broke down. I was scared and he wasn’t there. It’s hard to not become dependent on the one person who is with you the most. He said it himself, “I’m your rock, this will never happen again, we will communicate, we will learn from this and we are going to learn new things everyday. We can do this”. He’s the best person I’ve ever met. I can’t believe I’m so lucky to have him at this time in my life.

You may or may not know anyone close to you with cancer. If you did, what would you do for them? Maybe think about it so if it ever does happen, you will know.